People Pleaser

Recognizing and addressing feelings of resentment, especially towards those we are closely connected to, is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships. Often, resentment can lead to other emotions like anxiety, creating a cycle that can strain bonds and hinder personal well-being.


As a self-proclaimed people pleaser, I’ve found myself grappling with this emotion more times than I’d like to admit. There’s a common belief among people pleasers that by constantly giving and doing for others, we’ll be liked, accepted, and acknowledged in return. However, the reality doesn’t always align with this expectation.

It’s disheartening when our efforts aren’t reciprocated or even acknowledged. It’s important to recognize that others aren’t mind readers; they may not fully grasp how we’re feeling or understand the effort we’re putting in. This realization often marks the onset of resentment.


Left unchecked, resentment can fester and grow, poisoning relationships and eroding our sense of self-worth. But can we break free from this cycle of people-pleasing and resentment? I believe we can, with some intentional steps:


First and foremost, communication is key. Expressing our feelings and needs openly and honestly can prevent misunderstandings and foster understanding.

Setting boundaries is equally essential. Prioritizing self-care and ensuring our own needs are met before tending to others can help prevent feelings of resentment from taking root.


Self-reflection is a powerful tool. By understanding our emotions and developing solid communication skills, we can navigate through conflicts and challenges with grace and empathy.


Finally, finding joy in giving without expecting anything in return can be immensely rewarding. But it’s crucial to remember that our own cups must be full before we can effectively fill others’.


By adopting this mindset and committing to forgiveness, we can cultivate healthier, more fulfilling relationships while preserving our own well-being.